Hey there!
My name is Ben Milston, and I grew up in Sydney, Australia. I was born into a very academic family (while I was… let’s just say not so academic), I went to a good school, did my best to behave, play nicely. I tried to do all the “right” things.
I didn’t want to disappoint my parents. I wanted to fit in at school. From the outside, my life looked fine. Better than fine in fact.
But inside? I felt like I was constantly under pressure – pressure to succeed, to meet everyone’s expectations, to be a ‘man’ and suck it up. I felt pressure simply to belong, to feel liked, to feel accepted.
I lived with this constant inner critic in my head. A voice that told me I wasn’t good enough, wasn’t doing enough, wasn’t smart enough and that I would never amount to anything. I became a master at keeping up appearances – smiling when I felt sad, lonely or lost, showing up when there was anything I’d rather do less, getting on with things and simply pretending that everything was ‘fine’ – while quietly feeling like I was always behind, always failing, always “not enough.”
I would shape-shift who I was depending on who I thought I needed to be at the time:
– The son my parents could be proud of.
– The class clown kids could laugh at.
– The ‘good boy’ teacher’s pet.
– The ‘always will say yes’ friend.
And yet no matter what I did, and no matter how much I did it – I continued to feel unhappy. Unworthy. Lost. Disconnected from the life that appeared to be great, and yet it just didn’t feel great.
For over a decade I silently struggled heavily with depression and anxiety – to the point of substance abuse and even attempted suicide…And although looking at me you couldn’t tell – inside, I was a complete mess.
Over the years, I tried everything to feel better. Changed jobs. Changed countries. Changed relationships. Became more religious. Chased goals. Read books. Listened to podcasts. I even joined the army! I thought if I could just achieve more or ‘be better’ then I’d be able to fix myself. And if I could figure out how to fix what was wrong with me, I’d finally feel happy and at peace inside.
But no matter what I did, the overthinking & over-analyzing, the second-guessing, the exhaustion from trying to keep everyone happy, the pressure to always be better – it all followed me. I couldn’t escape myself.
After reading the incredible and renowned self-development book ‘The Power Of Now’, something clicked within me. I learned that my thought patterns were powerful enough to create feelings of fear, doubt, distrust and unworthiness. I then figured that maybe they could be powerful enough to create feelings of empowerment, self-love and inner strength.
This realization became the start of my transformative journey.
For 6 years I went off to travel the world, exploring different cultures and placing myself in intense situations with the intention of understanding myself and my place in the world more.
I hitchhiked across Europe, sleeping in parks and forests, and dumpster-dived food from the bins. I volunteered in eco-communities, sat multiple 10-day silent meditation retreats, partook in dozens of healing ceremonies and organized and led a four-month horse caravan through raw and untouched Mongolia. I dove deep into understanding myself, my shadows and my spirituality.
I began to see just how much of my life was shaped by the beliefs I grew up with – the need to prove myself, the fear of what others thought, the quest to be seen as ‘the good boy’, the constant pressure to achieve more so I could finally feel “enough.”
And as I learned to question those beliefs and change the way I saw myself, something huge shifted:
I realized my entire life had been tainted by specific lenses I had learned to look through, and when I learned how to shift those lenses, everything changed.
Today, after more than a decade of doing this inner work, I’ve come full circle. I’m now a Mindset & Transformation Coach, helping high-functioning, capable women who crave more than simply ‘going through the motions’ finally understand what’s been missing in their life, and create the clarity, peace, and genuine happiness they’ve been searching for.
I’ve built a life that feels calm, connected, and deeply fulfilling – one where I get to be fully myself without all the noise, the pressure, and the masks I used to hide behind.
I have a beautiful wife, children, and friends who love me for who I truly am – something I never had when I was busy trying so hard to be liked.
And now, I help others do the same.
Because you’re not broken. You’re not the problem. You’ve just been taught to see yourself and your life in a way that’s been keeping you stuck… and there’s another way.
That’s what I offer in my complimentary Clarity Call.
A chance to walk you through the same framework I used to completely shift my own life.
The same framework that’s helped countless others to find the clarity, freedom, and peace they had been searching for their entire life.
And the best part? You get to fast-track your journey and uncover in just a few months what took me over a decade to figure out.
Because you too deserve the freedom to be unapologetically you!
www.benmilston.com
Soul Searchers Finding Clarity And Direction:
The True You Method
The 3-Step Process To Create A Life Of Genuine Purpose And Passion That Brings The Happiness And Inner Peace You Truly Desire
(Even If You Have No Idea Where To Start, Struggle With External Pressures And An Inner Critic Telling You It’s Not Possible)
The Soul Searcher’s Guide to Breaking Free From Social Pressures & Societal Expectations To Live A Happy, Fulfilling & Purposeful Life,
In Alignment With Their True Self
Charge What You’re Worth
Practical Mindfulness & Mindset Techniques
